15 Ways To Overcome Loneliness
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There are a number of ways to begin dealing with loneliness that involve the need to develop friendships, doing things for yourself, or learning to feel better about yourself in general.
Here are 15 ways to help you overcome your loneliness and inject some much needed love and happiness into your life.
1) Constantly remind yourself that the feeling of loneliness is TEMPORARY and you will get over it in time.
2) Make an effort to talk to someone NEW. I know it is hard, but you must develop momentum and the first step is usually the hardest but most necessary.
3) Put yourself in new situations where you will meet people. Engage in activities in which you have genuine interest. Meet with people of similar interest.
4) Join societies like church groups, clubs, and other social groups and organizations.
5) STOP listening to lonely songs (e.g. All by Myself – Celine Dion).
6) OPEN yourself to others first. Don’t expect people to share their problems with a closed person.
7) Don’t judge new people on the basis of past relationships with old people. Try to see each person you meet from a new perspective instead of bring judgmental.
8.) Intimate friendships usually develop gradually as people learn to share their inner feelings. Don’t rush into intimate friendship by sharing too much or expecting that others will.
9) Don’t just seek romantic relationships. Platonic or even casual buddies can be extremely satisfactory.
10) Lead a well balanced life. Never neglect good nutrition, exercise and sufficient sleep. One of the main causes of depression which leads to loneliness, is the lack of those things.
11) Spending time alone will help you examine yourself more closely.
12) Don’t be a parasite to your friends. If you seek them for compassion and sympathy, they will be there for you. But if you repeatedly drone over and over about your problems, it becomes a nuisance and your friends will at best just entertain you.
13) Reflect back on good memories and count your blessings.
14) Learn a new skill. Success in achieving something will make you feel good about yourself.
15) See a counselor and talk in privacy.
Ultimately, the the most important thing to accept and acknowledge is that it has been your choices that have had lead you to your loneliness. Therefore if you want a reality where you have fulfilling relationships and feel loved, then you have to make choices that will lead you to this reality.
There’s a wise old saying is that, “If you want to have friends, then you have to be a friend first.” It all starts with you.
About The Author
Kristine Walton is an experienced crisis counsellor and spiritual healer. To learn how you can transform painful emotions into joy and happiness quickly regardless of your present circumstances, please visit iCreateJoy.com.
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